Back when we were preparing for marriage, we had some cursory discussions in our “pre-Cana Classes” that had us considering finances as a couple. Like many, we were loathe to delve too deep into that area at the time. Love conquers all mentality, ya’ know? If only we’d had a book like The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language at the time. I’m sure it would have been an eye opener and might have helped a few disagreements over the years.
About The 5 Money Personalities
Every couple argues about money. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 40 years or dating for 4 months, money touches every decision you make as a couple—from the $5 cup of coffee to the $50,000 car. And when the two of you don’t see eye-to-eye on how much to spend or how much to save, that’s when arguments turn into ugly toxic fights that leave both persons feeling hurt and angry. It’s why money has become the #1 cause of divorce in the U.S. Obviously, something needs to change. The reason this crisis has not been addressed is because it has never been identified, defined, or given a name. Scott and Bethany Palmer, aka “The Money Couple,” have identified and defined this problem and offer concrete solutions to fix it.
Once you know your Money Personality, you can get to the root of money arguments and start really working together. You’ll discover what has an impact on your loved one’s money decisions, and you’ll learn how to talk about money in a way that’s actually fun! You’ll figure out how to put an end to money secrets and lies once and for all.
It’s not just about money management, and it’s definitely not just about overcoming debt. It is a whole new way of living that will change everything in your relationship. Tens of thousands have already been transformed. Are you ready?
About Scott & Bethany Palmer
“The Money Couple”, have dedicated their lives to helping other strengthen their relationships with the 5 Money Personalities. With 43 years of combined financial planning experience, they launched “The Money Couple” and are regulars on national TV and radio and speak internationally about love and money. Scott and Bethany enjoy an active lifestyle in Colorado with their two young sons, Cole and Cade.
My Thoughts about The 5 Money Personalities
This title is one I’d highly recommend to any couple, whether already married or considering marriage. Finances can be a serious source of stress in life and relationships and I truly believe it is easier to live together when you are on the same page.
As Scott and Bethany point out in this book, you can have a great budget laid out for you to get out of debt or achieve a financial goal. But, when you and your spouse approach things so completely differently when it comes to money, it can seal the fate of a marriage. They even have a free quiz on The Money Couple website so you and your spouse can see which personalities are driving you. While I had a good idea where I’d place myself from reading the book’s descriptions, I took the online quiz and got these results:
Even back during those pre-Cana classes, I knew that we had different opinions about money and how it should be handled. I had adopted my father’s desire to create a good sized nest egg for emergencies and delay buying something until later. Hubby wasn’t going into debt for his purchases, but he also didn’t have the nest egg going when we were dating. Somehow we just figured that it would all work out after marriage.
Most of the time, we haven’t had any significant battles over spending money. But, one stumbling block we had was establishing what constitutes a ‘big’ ticket item that should be agreed upon by both parties. I think we’ve finally decided that even a great deal that’s just a few hundred dollars should be treated in that category. Otherwise, we could both ‘see’ availability of resources and spend more than what is truly available. Back when I first quit working outside of the home on a regular basis, money was tight enough that it could have had serious repercussions on our credit. (Or maybe I’m the only person’s who’s had to decide which bills get paid in full in a given month?)
I won’t share which personalities fit my spouse, but will say that knowing my own results helps me to better understand his thought process and motivation. I will say that I’m glad he’s most likely NOT a risk taker when it comes to money. I hope to have him take the online quiz soon to see if my guess is correct and maybe further open the discussion about how we manage our resources as a couple so neither of us get frustrated so easily at the other.
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Disclaimer ~ I was provided with a copy of the title to facilitate a review. No monetary compensation occurred and all opinions are my own.