As parents, we are the first and primary educators of our children. When they are young, we teach them basic skills. And, as they mature, we are responsible for teaching them about the Christian faith we hold. One aspect of this is how to view sex as God sees it rather than what the world tells us.
This is not a topic which is comfortable for many parents. Just mentioning the word sex can send some Christian parents running for cover! Yet, this marital act is beautiful and something that needs to be put into the proper context as the Bible teaches us.
Maybe you are fortunate to have a wonderful church that provides a program rooted in Scripture that teaches on topics like purity. My older boys did watch a series of purity talks by a married couple as part of youth group. However, the ultimate responsibility of teaching these concepts as rooted in our faith falls to my husband and I.
About Sex by Design to Teach Purity
Before you start panicking over the idea of talking to your teens about sex, I want to clarify that this curriculum, designed for both boys and girls, does not address the mechanics of sex. Rather, Abby addresses the topic of purity and how we are called to live as God’s children. As a 33-year-old virgin woman when the series was filmed, she shares the struggles faced when walking the talk in these presentations filmed with a teen audience.
The program is delivered in 3 parts: the film series, parent & teen guidebooks, and online resources.
Topics Covered in Sex by Design
1) Plan Ahead: Living Pure In A Sex-Saturated Culture
2) Counting The Cost: Every Decision Has A Price Tag
3) Dating: Doing Relationships God’s Way
4) Sex: God’s Purpose And Plan
5) Modesty: God Cares What I Wear
6) Pornography: Its Deception And Steps To Get Out Or Stay Out
7) Secondary Virginity: Running Back To God
Using Sex by Design
Before you introduce the material to your teen, Abby provides a parent introduction video to watch and a chapter in the parent edition of the book. This is where you learn how the program is set up and how to proceed.
There are a few recommendations for parents using this program:
- Take your time going through the material rather than trying to do a topic per week.
- Watch the video in advance of watching with their teen(s).
- Plan to revisit the material as your teen enters new developmental stages. (What a 13-year-old gets from the program is different than when they are 17.)
Each topic has different parts to complete:
- Watch the segment with your teen.
- Answer discussion questions based on the presentation. (The parent guide contains suggested answers.)
- Dig a little deeper with questions and activities meant to help the teen take the topic from “head knowledge to heart conviction.”
- Finally, implement the concepts in everyday life with the help of suggested activities.
About Abby Ludvigson
Trained as an elementary educator, Abby felt passionate about being an active model for sexual purity. After leaving the public school classroom due to budget cuts, Abby began working with a nonprofit to develop ways to equip families and teens with Biblical response to reset the culture’s call to abandoning sexual purity.
As a part of The Navigators, an urban missionary, she developed a curriculum to teach others about sexual purity and God’s call to live this way. The film series Sex by Design was filmed in 2014 and released in 2015. Shortly after she filmed the series, Abby met Greg who she wed in 2015. Asked if it is all worth it, Abby replies “I can wholeheartedly say… Greg was worth waiting for!”
My Thoughts on Sex by Design for Teaching Purity
As I mentioned, our parish had a series presented to the youth group a while back on purity. My eldest son attended and I volunteered to be a female presence during small group sessions. I was amazed at how well the teens received what was presented and asked some thoughtful questions. Life in high school is hard enough without the push to date and engage in relations meant for the marital bed.
To date, I am the only one who has watched the videos. I prefer to have a full framework in my mind before launching in on something so important with my boys.
Abby’s presentations are delivered well and you can feel her personal conviction in them.
The print materials received a lot of thought to not only encourage those conversations between a child and parent but to push you deeper into the topics. In a sex-saturated culture, you need all the help you can get. Plus, knowing that your parent is there to listen and guide you is quite helpful in allaying fears.
Final Takeaway for Sex by Design for Teaching Purity
This is a great resource for either the Christian parent or someone working in youth ministry. Alternatively, this is a great fit for a homeschool co-operative learning experience.
Those working through the program will have a firmer grasp on how God calls us to live with purity in mind. I believe even a few adults will find something Abby says convicting their hearts as well. After all, purity isn’t just about keeping sex in the marital bed.
Don’t just take my word for how we found this to be. Visit Abby Ludvigson review post on the Homeschool Review Crew website to see what other homeschooling parents thought about this resource.