In some ways, I’ve saved the hardest post to write for last. I have read on more than one occasion about mothers who get so wrapped up in raising the kids that they lose track of their own identity. Then the kids move away and they are left wondering what to do with themselves. For me, finding and maintaining my identity beyond the role of homeschool mom is important.
Something I have come to realize is that the process of becoming a wife and mother has changed me from the person I was before. Hence, the need to find my identity at this point in time.
What are the distinct parts of my identity?
The biggest part of my identity is being a child of God. It has been that way since before I was born and will continue even after my body no longer houses my soul. This portion of my identity defines so much of my life and is the reason why I am often found in prayer over decisions of all sizes. It also the part of me which may change slightly in regard to my relationship with Christ and willingness to listen to God through the Spirit. But, I do not see it ever going away.
Another large part of my identity is that of a wife and mother. These roles are also steadfast, but changing as time progresses. When the kids are real little, they demand a large portion of your time. Yet, as they grow, their reliance upon you morphs until they are adults and move away. Ask your parents, though, and you’ll learn that the role of a parent never ends. You just get to worry about them from a greater distance and pray that the foundation you laid serves them well.
I am also a friend to others and at times have been an employee. Through work done with this blog, I am now my own ‘boss’ through the role of entrepreneur. And, it is through this site that I have found pieces of my identity which had seemed to disappear.
Parts of My Identity I’ve Found
I have discovered that while I am not a fashion model and still have my own self-image issues, I really enjoy finding new outfits to help me look my best as well as beauty items to enhance my own natural beauty.
I know that I truly love to write and need to make time to do it. For now, most of my writing is through work on the site. However, I long to set aside time to work on that unfinished novel which was begun several years ago.
I truly enjoy helping other people. Sometimes the help is through this site via reviews or features of products and services that can be helpful for others.
The biggest obstacles I face when it comes to finding and maintaining my identity is making the time to do it and self-depreciation.
Helping other people can be done through so many different ways. While it is something I enjoy and do make time to do, I have to make sure to not overextend myself so that other areas suffer.
What are ways that you keep from losing your own identity while homeschooling the kids?
This post is part of the 5 Days of Tips for Homeschool Parents Blog Hop with the Schoolhouse Review Crew.Here is the last group of awesome homeschool bloggers sharing their tips. Hop on over to see what they are talking about this week!
Melissa @ Grace Christian School
Michele @ Family, Faith and Fridays
Missica @ Through the Open Window
Monique @ Mountain of Grace Homeschooling
Rebekah @ There Will Be A $5 Charge For Whining
Renita @ Krazy Kuehner Days
Sarah @ Renaissance Mama
Sasha @ Such a Time as This
Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling
Tiffany @ The Crafty Home
Tina @ Desperate Homeschoolers