Years ago, I was doing a lot of book reviews on the blog. As an avid reader, I just couldn’t help myself. However, I have scaled it way back in the past 2 years. However, there are times when I see a book available for review and I feel compelled to request. A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas is one of those titles, in large part because I have had so many struggles with living my vocation as a wife and need encouragement.
About A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas
Discover how to live out a sacred marriage. You believe your marriage has eternal purposes. you long for it to reach beyond your home and encourage others. But what does it look like to have a spiritually intentional relationship in the midst of dirty dishes, work deadlines, and car pools? In Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas showed us that God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy. Now, in A Lifelong Love, Thomas gives us the practical tools to craft our marriages into inspiring relationships that breathe spiritual life to others. Whatever season of marriage you are in, A Lifelong Love gives your the practical help you need to infuse your marriage with a spiritual passion that will not only change you but will change the world around you.
A Lifelong Love is available in hardback, print, digital and audio formats.
Gary Thomas is writer-in-residence at Second Baptist Church in Houston, a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and FamilyLife Today radio, and a popular speaker. His award-winning books, including The Sacred Search, have been translated into over a dozen languages and together have sold more than a million copies worldwide. Thomas and his wife have been married thirty years and have three children.
My Thoughts on A Lifelong Love by Gary Thomas
If you are looking for a book that will provide you with a ‘fix’ to your marriage or stroke your ego to help you feel better as you struggle with your vocation as a wife, then this book might not quite deliver what you are seeking. However, if you are looking for confirmation of what God calls us to in that vocation, you just might be interested.
I have to admit that I have not finished the book. It isn’t something so dense that I can’t read more than a few pages at a time for fear of not understanding something. Rather, some of the content has been used by God to convict my heart on a few things.
In his second chapter, Gary challenges his readers to look at their spouse as God’s beloved child and consider how they are treating them. He doesn’t let you go down the path our secular society might take by acting childish and saying “well, if THEY were treating me better, then I’d treat them the way you are saying they deserve..” Nope, instead he shares that “marriage does call us to at least try to understand our spouses’ struggles as God understands them – looking through the kindly, paternal eyes of our loving heavenly Father-in-Law instead of through our angry, resentful eyes of judgement.”
Thankfully, seeing them as a child of God does not mean that we can’t despise their actions. (I call this loving sinner and hating the sin!) We just need to remember to have empathy as well. (Note ~ Gary does talk about this empathy not meaning we should permit abusive behavior from a spouse. )
I am looking forward to continuing to read this title and see how God uses Gary as an instrument to help those of us struggling in a marriage to seek the path God wants us to walk. It might take a while between those stinging words in some chapters as well as the action steps included at the end of each chapter along with a prayer to help the reader grow in relationship with their spouse and with God.
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